Most of the research surrounding attachment parenting has centered around mothers and their children, which is kind of a shame. The truth, even if it’s not supported by a tremendous body of research, is that dads play an incredibly important part in the process of bringing up physically and emotionally healthy little people, too.

From the time baby comes home, dad plays a critical role in her life. Not only is it important for dad to support mom (and yes, that’s extremely important), but it’s also important for baby to get lots of cuddle time and play time with dad as well.

Of course, breast feeding is one of the main items most attachment parenting advocates focus on. You’ll get no argument from us that breastfeeding is the most healthy way a baby can eat, physically and emotionally. There’s nothing that compares to the closeness and intimacy of a baby at her mother’s breast. However, just because dad doesn’t have the equipment to do the actual feeding does not mean that he can’t help out:

• Dad can show respect for mom by running and getting anything she needs.

• Dad can show love and support for mom and baby by staying there while baby feeds. New moms still need adult contact, and staying close to mom and baby shows affection for both.

• Dad can help burp and change baby after she’s done eating.

When it comes to co sleeping, dads play a critical role as well. Co sleeping can be good emotionally for parents and baby, but it does create some obstacles to intimacy. Dads who show understanding, and especially those who are creative about making best use of the time that is available for emotional and physical intimacy help make the home environment healthy for everyone involved.

When it comes time to cuddle and help put baby to sleep, dads can really shine. Not only does this help give mom a break, but it gives dads their best opportunities to bond with their babies. When dads make sure that they take the time to give baby lots of positive, nurturing touch and attention, it helps babies grow into more confident, happy children and adults.

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